So, we are coming up to four months waiting for Amara (again). Four months has passed really quickly actually. We have been a lot less stressed this go around. Zambia was very stressful and this program is not as bad. Ask me in another four months time and see how I feel then. But, for now - both Darryl and I are feeling pretty good because we know that we are no longer going backwards in this wait and we know that each day that passes brings us closer to being parents. We couldn't be happier.Amara is on my mind every, single day. Every opportunity I have to talk about this adoption, the bedroom, the process, the people, the chatgroups I do. I went to meditation the other day and Amara visited me in my meditation and we walked along the beach together because she was 18 and we were just talking about what the rest of her life had in store for her and I was soooooooooo sad when my hour meditation was up because I wanted to stay with her and discover who she was as a human being. I can't wait for that part - the parenting part - the post adoption part. I want to spend each day learning and loving this baby, girl, woman.
At four months of waiting we think that Amara is probably started and has a little heartbeat right now. Right now, on the other side of the world, our little baby's heart is beating.
She is hanging out in her mother's belly and doesn't know that she will have two mother's yet. She doesn't know that she will have two countries and so much love that she won't know what to do with. We love her and can't wait to discover who she is.
So, we are probably 1/3 of the way to her referral. Could be a little longer as the timelines continue to grow daily however, it also could be a little shorter (we are hoping for the later). After we receive her referral, we wait for a court date and by watching and listening to the others in the program, this is the hard part for them and I fully expect it to be the hard part for me. The court date can happen anywhere from 4 weeks to 4 months post referral and I have seen others struggle through even longer waits. Once we pass court we will wait for all her paperwork to be processed and then we go get her (about 4-12 weeks after court).
Waiting patiently (for now)
Andrea & Darryl
2 comments:
Hang in there! Your time will come and you'll know that the amount of time you waited was just right as you'll have the child that is just right for you. Any earlier or later would be just that, too early or too later. It's funny how that works out.
Hi! We're there with you! We've been waiting for a referral for 3 months now. All the best with your journey!
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