I was 22 years old, lost and career driven. In talking with my Auntie at a party one day, she asked how my job was going. I told her that a monkey could do the work I was doing and that I was not happy with that. I spend my entire day dreaming of the places I will see, the careers I will have and I don't know what to do. I have bills to pay and I really want a house soon, etc. etc. She announced, "oh honey, you're in the meantime". I didn't understand. No, it seemed to me, I wasn't in the meantime. I was stuck there. I felt trapped and didn't know what my next step was. She told me to enjoy the meantime. To take this opportunity to take a class on something that INTERESTS me, not something that will get me further in life. She told me that if I was interested in Cake Decorating for example, take a course on that. She said that life works in mysterious ways and that perhaps, I will meet someone in that course that has made cake decorating their career and is looking for a partner, etc. etc. and all of a sudden, i will be out of the meantime and into the now.
I have to tell you that I did not take a cake decorating course. All of those who truly know me are laughing at the prospect of me with a tube, patiently squeezing icing onto a cake. It would be a disaster! Instead, I took a money management course afterall, I LOVE MONEY. It seems in retrospect that I misunderstood my auntie's words. I should have taken a writing course or soemthing along that lines.
Luckily despite ignoring my wise Aunt, all of a sudden I was out of the meantime and landed this great training job, which I love. It allows me to be creative daily, to set my own deadlines and to have very flexible working hours. I love it.
I didn't take my Auntie's advice then. I was 22 and didn't fully understand. How can any 22 year old have a full perspective on life let alone the meantimes of life? But now, those words are ringing in my ears. Perhaps this waiting for Amara is a meantime. Perhaps, Darryl and I should be using this time to fulfill some sort of deeper desire. Yes, Auntie Candy, Darryl and I have made a pact to enjoy the meantime. Now, we have to find something we will both like doing, and have fun with it. Perhaps, life book creation. Or, a Thai cooking class? The world is at our fingertips and this meantime might not be that bad.
Tuesday, October 28, 2008
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Having been through that "meantime", the wait, and now being on the other side....I would say, yes, relish the meantime. No one wants to hear that but, truly, do something fun and maybe do it together. Your life will change dramatically and, who knows, maybe that Thai cooking class will come in handy when you're trying to figure out a creative meal one night when you've "a day" with your little one. Life doesn't stop. It keeps moving around you. Don't let all the buses go by until yours comes. Hop on one that may take you to an interesting place while you're waiting. You never know where it may lead or how it may helpf later. Take care!
Your Auntie's and Mom always have such great advice! I am getting it through you :-) and I am sure you will be one of those Auntie's giving it to my kids. Just think of the advise and experiences you will have learnt and be able to share with others as they are sharing with you. You just gave me goose pimples... and always find a way to touch me every time I read your blog. Thank you for that! I admire you so much... more that you will ever give yourself credit for girl!
Thank you!
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